Mom Guilt:Why I Formula Feed, and Why I Shouldn’t Have to Explain Myself.

Hi everyone! Sorry it’s been so long since my last post. I welcomed a baby boy into the world on January 3rd. William came on Charleston’s biggest snow storm since 1989. My son demands attention, and he started from the day he was born!

As you can see this post is a little different from my regular post (don’t worry I will still have healthy recipes), but I wanted to start another part to my blog. Talk of mom guilt. Why is it that the moment we have a tiny human being we are judged more than ever before. There is all this talk of women empowerment, and lifting each other up, but I’ve never felt more alone and ridiculed as when I became a mother.

It seems like no matter what you choose, according to someone else (and usually other mother’s) you aren’t doing it correctly. You know the first question I am always asked? You breastfeed, right? Do you see how that ends, it’s not even a question, it’s an assumption. No, I do not breastfeed, and I immediately have to follow that up with that my milk dried up. I was not able to breastfeed, and then it seems that the other person is then suddenly ok with how I feed MY child.

I realized that I shouldn’t have to follow it up with anything. No, I do not breastfeed, and I should never even be asked that question. We are lucky enough to live in a world where we can choose how we feed our baby. I couldn’t breastfeed, and for me that was heartbreaking enough without the extra judgement. But, even if I could no one should judge or care how I feed my baby. As long as he is healthy and thriving, what does it matter?

Yes, I see the breast is best campaigns and know the benefits of breast milk. But, there are also benefits of formula; no one wants to talk about those, though. This isn’t a post to debate how to feed your baby, honestly if your child is happy and healthy, and you are happy and healthy than that’s all that matters. Instead of beating each other down as mothers, why don’t we start empowering each other, because this mom stuff is hard enough without the extra ridicule!